We have an amazing sex life but only when he is able to stay erect. He has been dealing with his ED issues since he was 18, but did not seek any help for until now (He did not really know what was going on and did not have insurance until recently.) He is overweight but has lost close to 100 pounds over the last year. We are not sure what is causing the ED and we are currently working to find a solution to this problem.
I am trying to be as supportive as I possibly can. I have done my research (knowledge is power!) and often times try to view him going soft as a challenge to get him hard again. However, I briefly began feeling like I was at fault. We communicate beautifully and I have openly expressed my feelings and my concerns. He has assured me that it has nothing to do with my attractiveness nor am I doing anything wrong. We have both agreed that having sex every night is not unreasonable, but we both get frustrated if he cannot perform. We have both also agreed that we cannot skip sex one night in hopes that the next night will be better as we could have missed a time when he was able to perform.
While we have talked about this at length and have openly expressed how we both feel, I still feel somewhat unsupportive when I get frustrated. How can I better support him? Am I in the wrong for getting frustrated and even feeling like I’m doing something wrong? While I know I’m not it is still eating away at me.
I’m seeking advice from anyone that could help so this problem in our sex life does not cause more problems in our relationship.
Is there anything I can do to help him more? We’ve gone to the doctor and he will be getting blood tests done to check his hormone levels. He has “bitch tits” as he calls them and it leads us to believe and his doctor that the problem is hormonal.
When this first started happening in your sex life how did you deal with the problem at hand?
Thank you in advance for any advice you can offer.